I’ve just released my fourteenth book, which of course means the reviews are starting to come in. Which got me thinking about how we deal with negative feedback and rejection and still stay in the creative process. First thing I will say is that chocolate ALWAYS helps (I’m sure there’s some science to back my up on this but obviously I’m far too lazy to find it)
But in all seriousness, here are some thoughts on having your creative work badly reviewed or rejected.
1) Your work is not going to appeal to everyone. And that’s okay.
2) Your work is not going to appeal to everyone. And that’s okay. Yeah, this is such a biggie that I had to repeat it!
3) The people who don’t like your work aren’t rejecting you personally. There’s a pretty high chance that they don’t even know who you are. To flip it around – you are NOT your work. Yes, you created it, but it’s not you. It’s seperate so don’t take it personally.
4) Don’t try and convince people to change their minds. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and as creators it’s not our job to tell them to believe in something that they don’t want to believe in. This one can be tough, but if you want people to respect you, you need to respect them and their right to an opinion.
5) Never, never, NEVER change your work to try and make the haters like it!! It’s crazy that we spend so much time trying to turn haters into fans, instead of creating our work for the fans that we already have. The fans that LOVE our work just the way it is. I’m going to give you a minute to let that one sink in because it’s juicy!
I’ve love to know what experiences people have had when dealing with bad reviews or rejection of their work. Hit me up in the comments!